Category Archives: Re-Framing Your Hurts

Giving Up the Outcome–a look at surrender

A friend and I were talking recently about what it really means to “surrender” or “’give up control.” It was a great and enlightening discussion. We first talked about what she had been taught to believe about God being in … Continue reading

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It’s Not About Feeling Better–It’s About Feeling

I had a great discussion the other day with a friend who asked some probing questions about ministering to someone in deep grief.  We tossed around some thoughts about the differences in every-day negative emotions and deep emotions from grief.  … Continue reading

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We Can Find Our Value By What Causes Us Pain

Here is an excerpt from Chapter Nine in my new book, Re-Framing Your Hurts: Why You Don’t Have to Fear Emotional Pain. This is a very different way to view pain that I learned  from Dr. Wilder in the 1990’s. … Continue reading

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From the intro to–Re-Framing Your Hurts: Why you don’t have to fear emotional pain

My newest book is  ready-click here. Here is a short excerpt from the introduction. Often times the feelings of hopelessness, anger, frustration, defensiveness, and acting out are symptoms of a deeper problem. Somewhere, deep inside and possibly even hidden, is … Continue reading

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Addictions and Attachment Pain

What do you turn to for comfort when you are hurting? Sugar? Drugs? Alcohol? Chocolate? Food? Sex? Excitement? Activity? A bad relationship? Did you know that these things we turn to when we hurt are substitutes for what our brains … Continue reading

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The Impact of Validation

There is a relational skill that is so vital, so important and essential–yet often difficult to incorporate as a habit.  This skill changes how people feel, how they react to upset, and how they grow. For the last couple of years, … Continue reading

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God’s Love is Like the Wind (from the new devotional)

“And may you have the power to understand, as all God’s people should, how wide, how long, how high, and how deep his love is.” Ephesians 3:18 New Living Translation  “But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that … Continue reading

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