Category Archives: Parenting

Stop Parenting

Today we have a guest blogger, my friend, Shawnda Myers. During our small group she shared the following thoughts about dealing differently with adult children that are still at home.  I liked what she said so well, I asked her … Continue reading

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Parenting Tip: The ”Big Picture” of Life

In the late 90s I learned about emotional maturity from Dr. Jim Wilder. His organization, Life Model Works, has a detail list of needs and tasks pertinent to each emotional maturity stage of life.  One of the maturity tasks for … Continue reading

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Musings from the book, Joy Starts Here

For some months now I’ve been musing on a section from the book Joy Starts Here, by Dr. Wilder, Ed Khouri, Chris Coursey, and Shelia Sutton.  The more I’ve mused on these paragraphs, the more interesting these points have become … Continue reading

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Helping Young Adults Evaluate Possible Mates

I was going through some old files to prepare for a workshop that is coming up and I found an old paper that I had shared a few years back at a break-out group for young people. It seemed beneficial … Continue reading

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We Can Find Our Value By What Causes Us Pain

Here is an excerpt from Chapter Nine in my new book, Re-Framing Your Hurts: Why You Don’t Have to Fear Emotional Pain. This is a very different way to view pain that I learned  from Dr. Wilder in the 1990’s. … Continue reading

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Forgiveness or Pretending?

Lately I’ve been thinking about forgiveness and how sometimes it is pushed as the cure-all for relationship problems. All of us have bad days when we grumble, snip, argue, or generally want to be left alone and do not act … Continue reading

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Addictions and Attachment Pain

What do you turn to for comfort when you are hurting? Sugar? Drugs? Alcohol? Chocolate? Food? Sex? Excitement? Activity? A bad relationship? Did you know that these things we turn to when we hurt are substitutes for what our brains … Continue reading

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